I found this article very interesting. I don't usually think about the many stereotypes and expectations that play into a dating and engagement scenario. Even though I don't like to play into stereotypes, it's weird how they enter into my life anyway. For example, if/when I get engaged in the far future, I would want my boyfriend to propose to me, and I would want it to be a surprise. I can't imagine being the one to propose! So even though I try to stay away from stereotypes, some of them have just been culturally ingrained in me. Even my parents' story reflects these stereotypes: though they had discussed getting married at some point, the proposal was a surprise and my dad was the one to propose.
I definitely agree with the reader, however, in that the article did mainly focus on women's expectations and stereotypes of men. However, I think that in dating and marriage situations, men hold stereotypes too. For example, most men propose but expect the woman to plan most of the wedding. In addition, I think men have many post-marriage stereotypes: the women will do the cooking and cleaning and helping with homework. Moreover, sometimes men don't like it when their wives make more money than them, even though it truly doesn't matter who does.
Overall, I think it is interesting how many subtle stereotypes and expectations there are in aspects of dating, engagements, and marriage. Maybe in the future more women will do the proposing!
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